{"id":248,"date":"2022-01-17T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-01-17T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mentalhealthcenter.com\/?p=248"},"modified":"2024-01-16T12:24:50","modified_gmt":"2024-01-16T19:24:50","slug":"borderline-personality-and-abuse-cycle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mentalhealthcenter.com\/borderline-personality-and-abuse-cycle\/","title":{"rendered":"Borderline Personality And Abuse Cycle"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Written by\u00a0A.J. Mahari and Reviewed by\u00a0Ryan House, PsyD Clinical Psychologist<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is highly associated with verbal abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, physical abuse, and\/or domestic violence often suffered by those who are non-borderline.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Recent findings suggest<\/em><\/a> that further research is necessary to better understand the association and differentiation between psychological dysfunction and trauma<\/a> processing, emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal sensitivity of individuals diagnosed with BPD.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The propensity for abusiveness in those with BPD can be instigated by the narcissistic injury that is at the heart of<\/em> the core wound of abandonment.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n Those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder<\/a> <\/strong>(BPD) or those with BPD who may not even know they have it, are more likely than the general population to be verbally, emotionally\/psychologically, physically abusive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But what is behind the connection between Borderline Personality and abuse?<\/p>\n\n\n\n The reality of this is such because borderlines lack a known, consistent self, and they struggle with abandonment fears and abandonment signs of depression<\/a> that stem directly from a primal core wound of abandonment<\/a> <\/strong>that arrests their emotional and psychological development in the very first few months of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This arrested development impacts most, if not all, areas of relating and leaves borderlines unable to interact in age-appropriate healthy ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ways of relating that unfold in the present and that aren\u2019t layered with deep intra-psychic pain \u2013 pain that is unresolved.<\/p>\n\n\n The roots of abuse in BPD, particularly in intimate significant other relationships with Non-Borderlines<\/a> <\/strong>have their genesis in the borderline\u2019s re-living of this deep <\/strong><\/a>intra-psychic pain<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pain that is triggered through attempts to be emotionally intimate with someone else. The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful and overwhelming to the borderline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It enlivens the borderline\u2019s worst nightmare \u2013 the unresolved pain of the core wound of abandonment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It arouses all the maladaptive defenses of the borderline because he\/she re-experiences the terror and panic of either his\/her past experience of feeling annihilated or engulfed and\/or his\/her fear of being annihilated or engulfed, often alternately when trying to be close to someone one else.<\/p>\n\n\nBorderline Personality And Abuse<\/h2>\n\n\n
Intra-Psychic Pain Is The Root<\/h2>\n\n\n
Approach-Avoidance Conflict<\/h3>\n\n\n